A place for friends to come together
This blog was created by Fre's friends as a place to share stories about our beloved brother, connect with other friends of Fre, and learn about the ways we can remember our dear friend.
As many of you may or may not know, our friend Fre Hindeya passed away at Cloyne Co-op on Friday, Sept 15. A number of his friends, fraternity brothers, and co-workers have been trying to connect with each other to find out what really happened, what is happening next, and what we can do to help.
Please invite anyone you know who knows Fre and would be interested in helping/attending a memorial service or in sharing stories with fellow friends.
We'll post the latest news when we get it, and we'll keep you posted to official needs and requests of family and friends. Thank you!
Feel free to post comments with stories, memories, news, ideas, or whatever...
As many of you may or may not know, our friend Fre Hindeya passed away at Cloyne Co-op on Friday, Sept 15. A number of his friends, fraternity brothers, and co-workers have been trying to connect with each other to find out what really happened, what is happening next, and what we can do to help.
Please invite anyone you know who knows Fre and would be interested in helping/attending a memorial service or in sharing stories with fellow friends.
We'll post the latest news when we get it, and we'll keep you posted to official needs and requests of family and friends. Thank you!
Feel free to post comments with stories, memories, news, ideas, or whatever...
posted by Mobilizing America's Youth at 3:51 PM
13 Comments:
I barely remember the first time i met Fre. We were both freshmen in 1997. He came over to my house, once, with a good friend of his who was in my english class. Years later, our paths crossed, once, again. I was in a tree and he spotted me. When he moved into cloyne, neither of us realized that we had met each other before. Instead, there was a subtle sense of familiarity that neither of us could explain. We became friends immediately.
It took a long time before either of us could explain it, and by the time we did, it was almost like we were brothers. We bonded, and told each other things that we never told anybody else. There was a trust between us that had grown strong in the short time we had become friends.
He was a loving and generous and had noble goals. We agreed on nearly everything and we enjoyed the time we spent together.
-fliz
I would like to take this moment to Thank You so much Jon for this. The love, efforts, affection, devotion and commitment you have expressed for Fre is clearly visible. Its unfortunate that we only meet in such an awful event in Fre’s life such as today. To his Frat brothers, friends, and co-workers, on the behalf of our family and community, I will like to thank you in advance for all your support, loyalty, and love. This is hard times, very hard. But this is the tango dance we call LIFE, its just so unfortunate that Fre’s had to end so early. I will do my best to make this last celebration of Fre’s life be remembered. Fre and I are cousins. I started calling Fre my brother when I was about 12 in order to get him into ICU to visit my father in hospital(b/c 7 yr olds were not allowed). Being that he was hospitalized for close to a month, calling him my brother sticked with me and became second nature. He lived 4 blocks from me, we went to the same schools, and boys and girls club. Being that we were both only children, we could relate on the need to have that brotherly/sisterly bond. He truly is my brother, from another mother. Lord knows we fought, and fought, and fought some more like siblings. I love him, and I catch myself in denial at times, because I just so want to share all that we are doing for him. Well, believe it or not, I have never texted Fre ever. And that same night of his death, I took a moment and text him at 7:31pm “I miss you, Hannah”. To have learned later that night of this outcome. I was in disbelief, anger took over and it pained me emotionally and physically. Some believe that it was a sign or him reaching out to me. I spent 80% of my childhood/teenage years with Fre, and I expected for our future children to do the same. I know he is with us now, watching us, and just awaiting with open arms for our tango to end, and to start a new dance in his new world.
Again, I wanted to Thank you all for your support and to Jon thank you for enabling me to share my thoughts with his Bay area friends. I will forward this blog to his High School friends. Please feel free to write here, and express your thoughts and wishes about Fre. I know we all grief in various ways. The tears roll down the sides of my cheeks as I type this, it gives me some sense of reality that closure and acceptance needs to follow. To Fre, My beloved brother, my true friend, I was truly blessed to have such a loving, beautiful, powerful, intelligent, compassionate, free-spirit soul such as you in my life. You were my partner in crime and I will continue living day to day with you in my heart. I love you endlessly. GODSPEED
-Hannah Tadesse
We have been saddened by the news. I am a member of the UCB Eritrean Students Association. It is very shocking to hear about Fre's passing. Please do let us know of any plans for a memorial service, and if Hanna or other family members are in the bay area so that we can visit the family and get to comfort them in their time of grief. We will check back on this page.
~Asmeret
It was brought to my attention that Dave Smith coordinated this Blog page. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. We sometimes forget what technology we have today when we are caught up in tragic times such as this one. I’m thankful for your creative ways to help us all communicate on one page. I spoke with my Aunt, Abeba, to give her a quick update of what was going on. She is so overwhelmed with all the love and support from Fre's friends. Classmates from pre-school to College have visited her home to share their condolences. As a parent it must be hard to loose your pride and joy. Trust me, She lived for him and only him. I was extremely worried how this tragic loss it would effect her. Its not easy, but she is embracing the love, and support with the up most respect. If anyone would like to send an e-card to his mom via email, please feel free to send it to me and I will print them out and forward them to her. My email address is hannahtadesse@yahoo.com . I can simply state the power of love is our blanket at this time and it is amazing.
Dear Asmeret, We don’t have family out in the Bay besides a cousin, Shewit, who has been our legs, eyes and ears to help us understand what has happened. I believe Fre’s fraternity brothers may have a memorial service for Fre locally in the bay. I’m sure all events will be posted here. Thank you for your support.
This is an email I recently received from a friend of Fre's. I thought you might be interested in reading this:
Dave,
This is Erica Skone-Rees...it's been a really long time. I have been in recent contact with Fre in the last few months after not speaking with him in years. We hung out several times and kept playing phone tag in his last week. In fact I had just left him a messasge two days before I heard the news. He seemed like the Fre we all knew, easy going, free-spirited, and generally happy with where things were going in his life. He had plans to move in with his girlfriend and told me he was in love. He seemed to have a good head on his shoulders, talking a lot about his future and the thigs he planned to do. A couple years ago he went one of my art shows and bought two of my paintings, he was always very supportive of my work, and when I visited him over the summer at a frat house he was staying in, they were framed, hanging on his walls. It was so good to see him....after everything, after time apart, i was so nice to see him a bit older, a bit wiser.
It is heart warming to see all of you come through for Fre like this, especially because he said that he hadn't had much contact with most of you in awhile. He really spread love through his smile.....and he always loved all of his brothers so so much. Seeing me reminded him of DU times and he shared a lot of old stories. Thank you for doing what you do. Please let me know if there will be a local memorial and where I can send contributions. I have a few photos but I don't think that all of us dressed in halloween costumes at Aminoffs house is appropriate. Please stay in contact.
Thanks again for pulling everyone together, Fre was the very first frat boy I met, and he and I bonded very fast. He was often the glue in that house, he had friends from all walks of life and he held them together.
Take care, Erica
Fre will be missed by a lot of people and his mother will need all the help his friends can give.
It's amazing to connect so well to such a close knitt group of people that all come together with a common goal to mourn for an exceptional human being.
His life was cut so short that it only dampens what hopes we all had for his life. Each of us have an idea of the future that we wanted Fre to have, near us. It's important to remember him as the happy, energetic social butterfly that he was. Many people can be described as the "life of the party", but Fre really was It.
I miss him terribly. I hope we can help his mom now.
I appreciate all the work the Dave and Jon have been doing. Their effort far exceeds any expectations that I had for what a friend can do in such circumstances. Their hearts are truly in this and I know that Fre is laughing, not believing how much activity is surrounding his passing. It is very deserving for a person that, like Erica said,
had friends from all walks of life.
-Raul L L
Is anybody is interested in renting cars and driving down this weekend for the funeral service? I should make reservations soon if we want to make this happen. The drive is about 8 hours. I don't know where we would stay. I will be posting a sign at Cloyne tomarrow to ask for drivers and passengers. If you can drive or would like a ride please call Tiffany at 760 717 7533.
Tiffany (and others),
There are a number of people trying to arrange rides from the Bay Area to San Diego on Friday night. If you are trying to find a ride or want to offer a ride, please contact Derick at derick.sohn@gmail.com.
I really appreciate everyone's kind words and memories of Fre. I just wish we were speaking of him at his wedding. My name is Senait and I was one of his cousin's as well. I cry as I write this now.
Fre had a way of making me feeling stupid and smart at the same time...with all the trivia questions and all. I mean we were like 9 or something...i used to yell at him to leave me alone...and now all I want is for him to bother the hell out of me. What I wouldn't do for a hug from him right now...well actually he would be on his knees and still tower me. hahah.
I will add some of these stories that you have shared in the Eulogy. Again from the rest of his family, we thank all of you for making attempts to come down and sned him off the right way. I love you Fre!
-Senait
I wanted to share this in advance that we will have Fre’s Life Celebration Videoed. If you have any special moments and or wishes for his mom, Please feel free to gather your thoughts together. I look forward to meeting you all in the celebration for Fre. He is soooo loved, my god, so loved. Please be safe! Love, Hannah
Also, if people need help with hotel stay for location- pls feel free to message me on myspace, or email me at hannahtadesse@yahoo.com
i met fre a a youth leadership camp and was lucky enough to call him a friend for 10 years. although we havent talked in years, he will always be in my heart. i will miss that smile, his warm hugs and that laughter. i love you fre. forever RYLA!
What to say.......Fre was a good person to say the least. I had the honor of going to Sweetwater High School with him. Though I have not talked to Fre in many years, like everyone has said, when you saw him, you just picked up like you had seen him the other day. I have many good memories of Fre from our ASB days, he was so damm funny. Fre, you will be missed by lots of people in the Bay area but also at home in National City. I pray from you family.
Until we meat again, take care, and watch over me.
M. Macias
SUHI 97
Once a Devil always a Devil!
What can you say about a brother like Fre? In my mind he's still wandering this earth... SOMEWHERE doing GREAT things. I have some very fond memories of this man from Sweetwater High School, ESPECIALLY in ASB. (His infectious smile, always covering a brothas back when it was time to sneak some free chips and soda... GOOD LOOKIN OUT FRE!!!) I am BARELY finding out the details of my brothers passing and I am still in shock and deeply saddened. This world is a little more emptier without you, kid... but our beloved hood of National City is a better place because of you, and all that you have contributed. I will step with a little more confidence knowing you will be watching over me. In the meantime my friend... I love you... save me a spot... and I will see you when I get there...
Todd Himaka
Sweetwater Highschool
National City
Class of 1995
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